For Christmas, I gave my husband the game, Settlers of Catan. We had talked about getting it for a long time. It was on sale at Target just before Christmas and so I was glad to be able to get it for him.
We sat down to play it with our girls yesterday and had a great time! But, I noticed a few things about our game.
When my younger daughter wanted a particular resource card, I said "okay." My husband looked at me with incredulity and said, "You're not supposed to do that!" I watched us reaction. A minute later, she added another section of road and took a card from my husband that gave him some points towards winning. Both my daughters and I responded by going "Ahhh.. Oh, we're so sorry. It'll be okay."
That's girls. I sat there for a minute and realized what had happened. Then, I made an announcement to the group.
I said, "This is what happens when girls play this game! If it had been a group of boys, they would have said to my husband, "Ha! Ha! Yahoo! You lost the road! Whoo!" with a voice of victory and taunting fun.
I burst out laughing because of the realization!
I know that some girls are super competitive. I am actually one of them and I have been a poor sport most of my life. This happened to be one of my more successful times playing and being a good sport! I was relaxed about it and wasn't out to win. I was out to have fun and not stress. I have raised my kids to enjoy playing the game, not to enjoy winning. Because I didn't want them to think it wasn't any fun when they lose. I've never emphasized the loser when we play a game.
And now they're good sports. I'm so proud of them! They can win and play for fun. But, they can lose and still be glad they played. I played UNO with my older daughter yesterday and she didn't hold back any punches! So, I matched her and played the same way. We had a good time. She won two matches and I won two.
But, it isn't serious and it's just for fun. I am so thankful for this gift. I am thankful that my girls are better sports that I was and have been. I am proud of them.